Case 36: Waswasa’s and Insecurity

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ولحَمْدُ الله رب العلمين

‎و الصلاة و السلام على محمد و على آله و اصحابه اجمعين وبعد

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

❓Question❓

Today’s case is regarding a sister who is not able to rid herself of her negative thoughts, and she is constantly having waswasa’s about her husband’s ex-girlfriend, and she is very insecure about her relationship. Although she is a practicing muslimah, she finds it very difficult to overcome these waswasas and thinks she is not strong enough to beat shaitaan.

🅰️Answer📝

Dear sister, you understand in your knowledge that these are nothing but waswasas from shaitaan. I have already done a post on OCD, and what you are experiencing is also a form of OCD. The constant thoughts of your husband’s ex and consequent negative thoughts related to this is a means through which shaitaan is trying to break you from inside and making it appear to you that you are weak.

Allah‎ﷻ has given us the power to beat shaitaan or else why would He give us the concept of free will? If we think we are weak, we will always remain weak, our thoughts and the language we use in communicating with ourselves plays a very important role in our self-concept, always use gentle words and language in dealing with yourself.

As always the important point to remember is that this is your test. This is how Allah‎ﷻ has chosen to test you, and you are strong as it is, and this test will only make you stronger. How can we think that we can’t beat shaitaan when he is merely a feeble creation of Allah‎ﷻ, just like us. He has no power over us, it is in us, if we are going to give him that power to control us.

As believers we are all faced with this trial, and if we give shaitaan that position of strength and power then where is the striving for the sake of Allah‎ﷻ and how can we attain Jannah. And what you need to tell yourself is there is no power or might except with Allah‎ﷻ. By giving shaitaan that authority over us, we would actually be committing shirk, استغفرالله! May Allah‎ﷻ protect us from that. أمين.

The next thing I want to tell you is, the fixation over your husband itself. As much as you may love your husband, and as much as you may be possessive about him, the ultimate love is that of Allah‎ﷻ, and we cannot love anyone more than we love Allah‎ﷻ, our obedience to our husbands should also be be solely for the sake of Allah‎ﷻ, and again we cannot give them the place that’s reserved for Allah‎ﷻ alone. We love them, we take care of them, are obedient to them, and we please them, only so that Allah‎ﷻ can be pleased with us. Period.

So, when you start seeing things from the perspective of pleasing Allah‎ﷻ first then automatically, your fixation will drop and you will have more tawakal ilallah, and your insecurities will start fading because you will now be secure in the comfort that your affairs are being taken care of by your maker. What more can one ask for when his affairs are in the hands of الوكيل (Al Wakeel- the disposer of affairs).

You also mentioned that you keep bring up the issue of his ex again and again in arguments with him, and you also said that he is not in touch with her, but you have a doubt that he may still have feelings for her. Well, I want to tell you here, is that, what you are doing is reminding him of something over and over again, when he has moved on. Why would you want to give him a reason to compare and create something which doesn’t exist by giving him these reminders. A wife should be a source of peace for her husband,

‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr رضى الله عنه said, that the Messenger of Allah‎ﷺ‎ said: “This world is temporary joys, and the best temporary joy of this world is a righteous wife.”

Muslim and Ibn Maajah.

Be that kind of wife to your husband. By giving these constant reminders to your husband you are actually putting yourself in the very situation that you fear. I advice you to stop bringing up these sensitive and damaging issues and put your trust on Allah‎ﷻ and keep yourself engaged in useful activities.

To stop the waswasa’s, keep yourself in dhikr of Allah‎ﷻ and every time you sense the thought creeping in, seek refuge in Allah, say;

‎ أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم

and لا حَوْلَ وَلا قُوَّةَ إِلا بِالله

recite آية الكرسي, the four قل etc. These are the best and effective tools against fighting shaitaan, and the key here is to stop the negative thought right at its root, don’t dwell on these thoughts as they are like a leech and will start feeding on you if you let them creep in even if it’s just a crack.

It’s is not easy fighting the enemy, but with perseverance and sincere efforts combined with complete trust and reliance on Allah‎ﷻ, it’s absolutely possible.

I ask Allah‎ﷻ to make your struggles easy for you and to help you overcome your negative thinking and to grant you victory in your fight against shaitaan.

أمين يا رب العلمين

‎سُبحَانَ رَبِّكَ رَبِ العِزَّةِ عَمَّا يَصِفُون وَسَلَامٌ عَلى المُرسَلِين والحَمدُ الله رَبِ العلمين

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Case 35: Feelings of sadness

بسم الله⚜⚜

الحمد الله⚜

وصَّلات وسَّلام على رسول الله⚜

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❓Question:❓

The issue we are dealing today concerns this sister whose problem is that she dosent want anyone to know her true feelings(like when she is feeling sad or angry).She feels that if she shows her true feelings then the situation becomes worse,therefore she avoids communicating with her near and dear ones.Most of the time she is feeling sad and it shows on her face too.

📜Answer📜

First let’s talk about the feelings of sadness that the sister seems to have .

The heart benefits nothing through grief. The most beloved thing to shaytan is to make the worshipper sad in order to prevent him from continuing on his path. Being Sad is Discouraged in Islam. Sadness prevents one from action, instead of compelling one towards it. The believer should not seek out sadness, because sadness is a harmful condition that afflicts the soul. The Muslim must repel sadness and fight it in every way permissible in our religion. There is no real benefit to sadness . Shaykh Aaidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni wrote a fantastic book titled, ‘Don’t Be Sad‘, where many problems that we encounter on a daily basis are addressed, and solutions presented from an Islamic perspective.

I would advise the sister to read this book and keep it in hand whenever she gets these feelings of sadness.

The best thing to do is always keep ourselves busy with dhikr and make lots of Dua to Allah (‎ﷻ) to rid ourselves from those thoughts and emotions that lead us to sadness.

– the Prophet (‎ﷺ‎)sought refuge from it in the following supplication: “O Allah, verily I seek refuge in You from worries and sadness, from disability and laziness, from cowardliness and being stingy, and from overwhelming debts and being overpowered by men.

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ

الهَمِّ وَ الحَزَنِ، وَ العَجْزِ وَ الكَسَلِ وَ الجُبْنِ وَ البُخْلِ، وَ ضَلْعِ الدَّيْنِ وَ غَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ.

Sahih Al-Bukhari

Now coming to the other issue with the sister,

One of the most common misconceptions people have is that avoiding situations and not expressing our true feelings, lead to resolution of problems. But it is not true in most of the cases. The more you bottle up your true feelings and try to hide behind a facade the more harmful it is for your own well being.

First and foremost what we need to Understand is  that having these feelings is quite normal and there is nothing to be ashamed of.

Second thing we need to do is to express these feelings in the right manner, without going extreme (controlled reaction).

The first step is something very personal and a more internal process. We need to understand that Allah (‎ﷻ) has made all of us differently. For some people it is easy to show emotions and some people it is very difficult. But what is common to all of us is that having and experiencing these emotions. It is very normal and natural to feel sadness, anger, jealousy etc, but what differentiates us is how we express  and deal with it. A better word would be how we manage it. A person who is better equipped to manage these emotions is said to have a good emotional intelligence or quotient.

It has more to do with our own mental strength.

Therefore understanding and acknowledging these feelings will help us express them better.

The second step is external and has to do with expression and communication. I feel it is better to discuss these feelings with your husband and get it out of your system so that both of you can move on and let bygones be bygones. Unless and until you openly share whatever you are going through with your husband how will he understand what’s going on with you. It will not only prove a kind of catharsis for you but also help strengthen the bond with your husband.

(Catharsis is the Greek word for cleansing and is used in psychology to explain the process of rapidly releasing negative emotions. Expressing or releasing these emotions might make you feel better.)

Another important thing to remember is that how you express these feelings. It should be in a manner in which it is beneficial for your own well being and you are also able to put your point across. Moderation is definitely needed here so that we don’t go to extremes and hurt the other person’s feelings and further jeopardize the relationship.

I hope and pray that this advice was beneficial to the sister and helps her overcome these feelings .

At the end of the day we should turn towards Allah (‎ﷻ) to achieve any kind of peace and strength .

Ya Allah(‎ﷻ) grant this sister a heart free of sadness and ease in all her affairs.

أمين يا رب العلمين

أللَّهُمَّ بَارِك لَهَ فِيْهَا

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Case 33: Sister suffering from OCD

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ولحَمْدُ الله رب العلمين

‎و الصلاة و السلام على محمد و على آله و اصحابه اجمعين وبعد

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

❓*Question* ❓

Today’s question is regarding a sister who has constant doubts regarding her wudu and salah, and she takes anywhere around 25-30 minutes just to perform her wudu, and more so with her salah, because she has this compulsive thought that she might have made mistakes and might have not done it properly. This makes her mentally and physically weak and tired.

Answer.

According to Mayo Clinic, Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is characterized by unreasonable thoughts and fears (obsessions) that lead you to do repetitive behaviors (compulsions). It’s also possible to have only obsessions or only compulsions and still have OCD.

OCD in Islam can comprise of taking too much time to make wudu, fear that one might have missed something in their salah, or that their tajweed isn’t proper, feeling impure all the time, or even having thoughts that you can’t even mention in front of anyone, repeatedly so much so that it has become an obsession and compulsion that has disrupted their every waking moment. From an Islamic stand point these are usually considered as waswasaah or whisperings from shaitaan.

Some people are overcome by certain uncontrollable thoughts, which are at times accompanied by self-invented rituals. When these thoughts and rituals take more than 1 hour per day, then a person is said to be suffering from OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder).

The most common OCD obsessions and compulsions among Muslims are:

– Which Rak’ah of Salah am I performing?

– Doubt whether I performed Salah correctly or not.

– Fear of impurities when doing Wudu’ and while performing Salah.

– Doubts of passing wind, and nullification of Wudu’.

– Doubts regarding Wudu’: whether it was performed correctly or not.

– Blasphemous thoughts.

– Constant feeling that the clothes are unclean.

These obsessions lead to certain compulsions:

– Doing Sajda e Sahu in every Salah

– Re-performing Salah

– Performing Wudu’ several times

– Taking a lot of time in doing Wudu’

– Spending too much time in all purification/washing activities e.g. washing hands after meal

Defining features of these Obsessions are:

* Intrusive quality: The thought, image, or impulse repeatedly enters consciousness in an unintended manner; that is, it occurs against one’s will. An emotional feeling that is compulsive is associated with the thought. These are mostly unwanted thoughts leading to unwanted emotions.

* Unacceptability: The negative effect associated with these unwanted thoughts and emotions may vary from an annoyance to unpleasantness or distress to strong fear or anxiety.

* Subjective Resistance: There is a strong urge to resist, suppress, dismiss, or prevent the obsession from entering consciousness, either through avoidance, thought control approaches, or overly repetetive rituals.

* Uncontrollability: There is an internal sense of decreased control over the obsession.

We all know that we have a Shaitaan (Jinn, Qareen) attached to us, and it constantly whispers to us and instills deceiving thoughts in our minds, making us feel that they are our own thoughts. Sometimes people exaggerate these whispers, or waswasaas to such an extent that they start thinking them to be sacred. If these thoughts were sacred then why do you suffer from them?

There are two types of people who fall victim to these whispers or waswasaas to such an extent that it becomes an abnormality/disorder.

* For some people it becomes very difficult to repel these whispers or negative thoughts as useless, because they tend to remain confused on the source of such thoughts. They jumble up waswasaas with thoughts from one’s self (mind), and from one’s inner self (nafs).

* Others tend to be totally heedless of the severity of these waswasaas, and every thought that comes with a certain level of strength they tend to label it as their own. And there might be some who don’t really ‘believe’ in shaitaan’s whispers.

So, for one reason or the another, when one starts to dwell in these waswasaas, they may develop this disorder and those who overcome Shaitaan will not develop it. Our ardent enemy shaitaan is invisible so there is a specific way of fighting it.

– Firstly one needs to be aware of the tactics of the Shaitaan and his powers and limitations

– One needs to know the elements of waswasaas of Shaitaan

– One needs to be aware of their own powers and limitations.

Cognitive theory in the study of psychology suggests that as long as people interpret intrusive thoughts as ‘catastrophic’, and as long as they continue to believe that such thinking to be true, they will continue to be distressed and will practice avoidance and/or ritualistic behaviors .

Prophet Muhammadﷺ said: “Allahﷻ has forgiven the wasaawis (satanic whispers/intrusions) that arise in the hearts of the people of my nation until one acts upon them or talks about them”

[Sahih Bukhari and Muslim]

It is because when we ignore them, and don’t talk about them or do not act up on them, they do not harm us in any way, ‎إن شاء الله

This hadith is to prevent ourselves from being a victim of waswaas. But, in this sister’s case she has already dwelled into these whispers to an extent that she is obsessed with them, and the self-invented rituals (compulsions) are taking a notable time away from her daily life.

Waswasaa is something that happens with all of us, but some of us dwell in them so much, in heir frequency and the actions that they drive the person into makes them a ‘patient’. And there is a solution for every disease.

Prophet Muhammadﷺ said: “Allah‎ﷻ has not sent down any disease but He has also sent down its cure. Those who know it, know it, and those who do not know it, do not know it.”

[Narrated by Ahmad ; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Ghaayat al-Maraam]

Once one has come to this stage, they need to carefully measure their actions and follow some steps to get rid of them.

* Disregarding any waswasah about breaking wudu’

Repeating Wudu’ again and again due to doubts is the result of waswasah. It is an action driven by a negative thought. Wudu’ does not break on mere doubts and this rule is very clear from the hadith of the Prophetﷺ:

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Prophet Muhammadﷺ said, “If one of you finds a disturbance in his abdomen and is not certain if he has released any gas or not, he should not leave the mosque unless he hears its sound or smells an odour.”

[Sahih Muslim]

On one hand one should not be careless to the extent that even when they know that they don’t have wudu’ they assume the opposite, and on the other hand they should not be extremist and follow the doubts when they are quite sure. So, repeating the wudu’ on doubts (whether severe or slight) is in and of itself a disobedience to the order of Prophet Muhammadﷺ and not an act of piety like Shaitaan makes one feel. Imposing on your-self too-much strictness in a matter of religion which has been kept flexible by Prophet Muhammadﷺ means taking-away importance from some other matter. So, Prophet Muhammadﷺ closed the door of this innovation of repeating wudu’ on doubts and clarified that wudu’ is rendered as nullified only when there is certainty of that.

A desert Arab came to the messenger of Allahﷺ and asked him about wudu’. He demonstrated (washing each part of his body) thrice, and then said: That is (the method of) ablution. And he who does more than this has done wrong, transgressed the limit and has oppressed (himself).

[Sunan ibn Majah- classified as sahih by Al Albani]

* Wasting Water in Wudu’

When one starts following the doubts that Shaitaan creates in one’s mind, they get into a lot of other sins including wasting water by performing Wudu’ again and again, by taking bath time and again with an extended period under the shower owing to extreme care, and by washing one’s clothes on mere doubts of impurity etc.

It has been narrated on the authority of Abdullah bin ‘Umar, that the Prophetﷺ passed by Sa’ad he was performing wudu’. He said: What wastage is this? Sa’ad said: Is there wastage in wudu’ also? The Prophetﷺ said: Yes, even if you are at a flowing river.

[Masnad Ahmed and Sunan Ibn e Majah, The hadith has a weak chain as pointed out by al-Albani but it is used to emphasize an established fact which is mentioned many a time in the Qur’an itself.]

Allahﷻ says in the Qur’an:

“….And eat and drink and be not extravagant; surely He does not love the extravagant.”

[ Surah Al A’araf :31]

“…and do not act extravagantly; surely He does not love the extravagant.”

[Surah Al-An’aam:141]

* Doubts/Uncertainty/Forgetfulness in Salah

Mind wandering away in Salah is very common, and it even happened at the time of Sahaba, and Prophetﷺ told us of a Specific Shaitaan who does that and asked us to seek refuge from it and spit to ward off the Shaitaan. Heﷺ did not mention Sajda e Sahw in this case, so one should not make it a habit to do Sajda e Sahw at the end of every Salah considering that his mind did wander away to some extent.

The Messenger of Allahﷺ said, “A person may be distracted whilst praying so only one-half of it, or one-quarter, or one-tenth or less, is recorded for him”

[Masnad Ahmed bin Hanbal and Sunan Abu Dawud, authenticated by al-Albani]

One important thing for those suffering from waswasaas is to know: You are not suffering from any memory-loss rather it’s a reduced confidence in one’s memory. Shaitaan is attacking your subconscious memory as he can’t really change your conscious memory directly. So, you must remember that when you suffer from forgetfulness in Salah, that might be natural if it happens rarely, considering that it some times also happened in the life of Prophetﷺ as well, and he was the best to walk the earth. But, if that happens very often then you are person who is doubting a lot and is affected by waswaas; then this hadith (below) should help them realise that their main objective is to humiliate the shaitaan by not being bothered by those doubts and retaliating by your actions.

Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri, Allah’s Messengerﷺ said , “If any of you doubts during his prayer and he does not know how many [raka’aat] he has prayed, whether it is three or four, then he should discard and cast away his doubt. He is to continue upon what one is sure of [i.e. the lesser] then perform two prostrations before making tasleem. If he ends up [in reality] praying five [raka’aat], then his prayer will be an intercession for him; and if he ends up completely the [requisite] four [raka’aat] then it is targheeman for Shaitaan.”

[Sahih Al Muslim]

* Transgressing in Purification

Being over conscious about purity and cleanliness is also against Islam. Islam being a balanced religion does not guide us to any extremism. It is true that Islam declares “cleanliness” as half of “faith” but it does not allow anyone to get into cleanliness issues so much that other aspects of deen are forgotten.

`Abdullah ibn Mughffal narrated that the Prophet ﷺ said, “There will be people from my nation who will transgress in making supplications and in purifying themselves”

[Ahmad, Abu Dawud, and An-Nasa’I and it has been authenticated by al-Albani]

* Wasting Time

‘Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud reported that the Messenger of Allahﷺ said, “The feet of the son of Adam will not move away from his Lord on the Day of Resurrection till he is asked about five things about his life, how he spent it; about his youth, how he passed it; about his wealth, how he earned it; and on what he poured it; and what he did with that which he learnt.”

[Jami’ Tirmidhi]

Half an hour for every Salah (common for OCD patients) and few more times here and there makes it around 3 hours/day in the washroom. When you are asked on the Day of Judgment: “Where did you spend your age? 3 hours/day makes it 1100 hours/year approximately. Meaning a person living 60 years spends almost 8 years in the washroom. Are you ready to reply Allah that I used to spend 1/8th of my day in the washroom and hence I spent 8 or so years of my life in washroom?

* Precaution or Waswasah

What an OCD person labels as precaution is in reality a waswasah.

– Precaution is to follow the Sunnah in the best possible way and to avoid any negligence and exaggeration in following the Sunnah.

– Waswasah is that a person exaggerates beyond the practice of Allah’s Messengerﷺ and his companions, deeming it to be a part of religion or a necessary ‘precaution’ for himself. E.g. Cleaning parts of body more than thrice in wudu’, using excessive water in wudu’ or ghusl etc

Ibn al-Qayyim says, “There are thousands of things which the people afflicted with waswasaah take as a part of religion, cloaked in ‘precaution’, whereas, precaution is to be exercised in following the sunnah”

[Kitab ur Ruh, Ibn al-Qayyim]

Anyone suffering from such doubts and waswasaas should take these points into consideration and ‎إن شاء الله try to understand that in the pursuit of pleasing Allah‎ﷻ, they are in fact falling prey to extremism which is in and of itself a sin.

I ask Allah‎ﷻ to protect us from the Waswasaas of Shaitaan, and our own Nafs. And, I ask Him‎ﷻ to protect us from any form of transgressions against our souls and keep keep us steadfast upon the Sirat Al Mustaqeem and the middle path.

أمين يا رب العلمين

‏[Source: Islamandpsychology.blogspot.ae]

‎سُبحَانَ رَبِّكَ رَبِ العِزَّةِ عَمَّا يَصِفُون وَسَلَامٌ عَلى المُرسَلِين والحَمدُ الله رَبِ العلمين

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Case 19: Fear of Jinn Possession

‎بِسْم الله⚜⚜
‎الحمد الله⚜
‎وصَّلات وسَّلام على رسول الله⚜
‎السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
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❓Question:❓

The issue we are dealing with this week comes from the sister whose teenage daughter is scared of possession due to some game she played with her friends at school. This is quite a prevelent issue concerning our children nowadays.

🖊🖊Answer🖊🖊

Our children need to have some basic knowledge about jinn possession, and not some stuff they learn from horror movies or some fictional books.

There are some facts and some illusions connected to the issue of jinn possession, and among most people nowadays the illusions outweigh the facts. What we need to do is first provide the basic information from authentic and reliable sources to our kids.

The Qur’an and Sunnah indicate that the jinn exist, and that there is a purpose for their existence in this life, which is to worship Allah (‎ﷻ‬)Alone, with no partner or associate. Allah says:

‎وَمَا خَلَقْتُ الْجِنَّ وَالْإِنسَ إِلَّا لِيَعْبُدُونِ

“And I (Allah) created not the jinns and humans except they should worship Me (Alone).”
{Surah Adh Dhariyaat, Ayah 56}

Every individual among the sons of Adam has a jinn who has been appointed to be his constant companion (qareen). Ibn Mas’ood رضى الله عنه said: “The Messenger of Allaah (‎ﷺ‎‬) said, ‘There is not one of you who does not have a jinn appointed to be his constant companion.’ They said, ‘And you too, O Messenger of Allah‎(ﷺ‎‬)?’ He said, ‘Me too, but Allah has helped me and he has submitted, so that he only helps me to do good.’” (Reported by Muslim, 2814).

The second important thing to remember is how to protect ourselves from the harm of the jinn:
✳️ Because the jinn can see us while we cannot see them, the Prophet(‎ﷺ‎‬) taught us many ways to protect ourselves from their harm, such as seeking refuge with Allah from the accursed Shaytaan, reciting Soorat al-Falaq and Soorat al-Naas (the last two Soorahs of the Qur’aan), and reciting the words taught by Allah in the Qur’an:

‎وَقُل رَّبِّ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ هَمَزَاتِ الشَّيَاطِينِ

And say: “My Lord! I seek refuge with You from the whisperings (suggestions) of the Shayatin (devils).”

‎وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ رَبِّ أَن يَحْضُرُونِ

“And I seek refuge with You, My Lord! lest they may attend (or come near) me.”
{Surah Muminoon, Ayahs 97-98}

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✳️ Saying Bismillaah (in the Name of Allaah) before entering one’s home, before eating or drinking. Similarly, mentioning the name of Allah before entering the toilet or taking off one’s clothes will prevent the jinn from seeing a person’s ‘awrah or harming him, as the Prophet (‎ﷺ‎‬) said, “To put a barrier that will prevent the jinn from seeing the ‘awrah of the sons of Aadam, let any one of you say ‘Bismillaah’ when entering the toilet.”
(Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 551; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3611).

✳️ Strength of faith and religion in general will also prevent the jinn from harming a person, so much so that if they were to fight, the one who has faith would win.

As for curing this condition the following steps are recommended:

✳️ Putting one’s trust in Allah with sincere belief that He is the only cure for everything.

✳️ Reading Qur’an and known supplications expressing seeking refuge, the most important and effective of which is sura 113 and 114, Al-Falaq and Al-Naas, which were used to cure the Prophet(‎ﷺ‎‬) himself. Surah Al-Ikhlaas, is recommended along with them, as well as the opening chapter of the Qur’an, Al-Fatihah.

 
✳️ Posession is somthing like a disease. It can be like getting a cold or having diabetes. So when Allah (‎ﷻ‬) afflicts us with a disease our sins get eliminated. So the same thing happens with possession. It is a means of our sins getting expiated or forgiven. It is a trial from Allah (‎ﷻ‬) and Prophet Mohammed (‎ﷺ‎‬) said ,
“No fatigue, nor sorrow, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah‎(ﷻ‬) expiates some of his sins for that.”
(recorded by Bhukhari and Muslim).

✳️ We don’t have to fear Jinn when they are also a creation of Allah (‎ﷻ‬)and if any kind of possession happens it will only happen with the command of Allah(‎ﷻ‬). And it will be better for us on the Day of Judgement and more better than other things which are harming us in a much worse way.

✳️ We need to remind our children to keep themselves and their surroundings clean as jinns and shayateen are present in dirty places. Constant remembrance of Allah (‎ﷻ‬) will also keep them away.

✳️ What we need to fear and protect ourselves from, could be the constant shamelessness we see on social media, listening to music and our inability to wear proper hijab (it is relevant to the particular case). Allah (‎ﷻ‬) will protect us and bless us with something if we do it for His sake even if we don’t like it. These things are also from Shaitaan and more harmful and dangerous to us as they create fitnah and take us away from the remembrance of Allah(‎ﷻ‬). These are the things that put us in sin, while the possession itself erases our sins and each should be treated accordingly and handled accordingly.

✳️ Not even our parents can provide us with the level of protection that only Allah(‎ﷻ‬) can, as they too are under His protection. So we need to develop Love and Tawakkal on Allah (‎ﷻ‬) as the only One who can protect us and guide us through our difficult times. Man is always in need of his Rabb. We have to seek the help of Allah and pray to Him and beseech Him to prevent the plots of the devils among mankind  and the jinn from harming us.

May Allah grant our children protection from the whispers of the shaiateen and help us be the best guardians to them as He has placed us to be….
‎أمين يا رب العلمين

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Case 17: Coping with an illness for self or a loved one

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم⚜
الحمد الله⚜
وصَّلات وسَّلام على رسول الله⚜

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
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❓Question:❓

The issue we are dealing this week is how to cope with an illness for oneself or for a loved one.

🖊Answer🖊🖊
Allah(‎ﷻ‬) tests all his slaves with one thing or another. Life has been determined to be an experience of tests and tribulations. Times of crisis are particularly likely to awaken our spiritual side and to uncover the fitrah that has been buried by false beliefs, principles or behaviors. And if we are not tested by these trials then we will not remember our Rabb. Allah (‎ﷻ‬) reminds us of this fact:
“And when affliction touches man, he calls upon Us, whether lying on his side or sitting or standing; but when We remove from him affliction, he continues(in disobedience) as if he had never called upon Us (to remove) an affliction that touched him. Thus is made pleasing to the transgressors that which they have been doing.”
{Quran Surah 10: Verse 12}

The illness is not meant to punish us or oppress us but instead to assist us in realizing the truth of our existence and our potential for spiritual growth. Although on the surface they might appear bad to us, in reality it is somthing good and beneficial. Out of His mercy, Allah (‎ﷻ‬)ordains good for the human being. Our inability to understand events and illnessness in the world from our limited human perspective does not denote the absence of higher purposes and goals. The wisdom behind this is beyond our limited understanding.

Allah ‎ﷻ‬mentions in the Quran,
“But …..perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing that is bad for you. And Allah knows,while you know not.”
{Quran Surah 2 Verse 216}

Any time of pain or suffering that a individual experiences in this life will only serve as a expiation for sins or increase in good deeds.

Prophet Mohammed‎(ﷺ‎‬) said, “No fatigue, nor sorrow, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah‎(ﷻ‬) expiates some of his sins for that.”
(recorded by Bhukhari and Muslim).

The purpose of these trials is to distinguish between those who exhibit patience and those who don’t.

It is better as a believer to either be in a state of gratitude to Allah‎(ﷻ‬) or in a state of patience. The Prophet(‎ﷺ‎‬) said, “The affair of the believer is amazing in that it is always good for him, and this is true only for a believer. If something joyful comes to him, he gives thanks, and that is good for him. If somthing harmful comes to him, he is patient, and that is good for him.” (recorded by Muslim).

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The best example for this could be taken from the story of Ayub (عليه السلام) when he was afflicted with every kind of trial and tribulations and the only part of his body which was not touched by disease was his tongue and heart. Due to his patience and steadfastness Allah mentions him in the Quran:
“Truly ! we found him patient. How excellent a slave! Verily, he was ever oft returning in repentance to us.”
{Surah 38 Verse 44}

Research in the area of post traumatic growth shows us that exposure to trauma leads to change in the strength of religious faith causing an individual to either abandon his faith or embrace it more. So whenever Allah (‎ﷻ‬) tests us we need to remember these points and always be grateful for the number of years Allah (‎ﷻ‬) blessed us with good health and not the few months of illness. Always exhibit patience at these times. This will be beneficial for us in terms of the hereafter, since on the Day of Judgement, we will be judged according to our deeds. Those whose scale of good deeds is heavy will be successful, while those whose scale is light will be in despair. Allah (‎ﷻ‬) has a purpose or plan behind the tribulations, which is mainly to elevate us in the hereafter, either saving us from the hellfire or raising our status in paradise.

What we can do at these difficult times is to draw close to Allah (‎ﷻ‬).How do we do that?
✳️ First by obeying Him and performing acts that are pleasing to Him. In order for an action to be considered pleasing we need to remember two conditions:

1.The intention must be purely and sincerely for the sake of Allah (‎ﷻ‬)
2. It must be in accordance to the Quran and the Sunnah of our Prophet (‎ﷺ‎‬).

✳️ Salaah is one of the most important tools in dealing with trials.This constant connection with Allah (‎ﷻ‬) provides nourishment for the soul and helps us in difficult times. let us use the extra time we get during the illness to pray more.

✳️ Make constant Dua not only for the person afflicted with the disease but for everyone else. It is beneficial for both protection and healing. It is a potent method for overcoming all kinds of trials.

✳️ Performing Ruqyah is the sunnah of our Prophet (‎ﷺ‎‬). It refers to the Islamic methods of treatment in which various verses of the Quran or supplications are recited in order to bring a cure for the afflicted person. The cure of course comes from Allah(‎ﷻ‬).

✳️ Ask for constant repentance. It is an act of worship through which the humans may attain peace. Allah loves those who turn to Him and seek His forgiveness:
“Indeed, Allah loves those who are constantly repentant and loves those who purify themselves.”
{Quran Surah 2 Verse 222}

✳️ It is a time to reflect and ponder upon the kind of relationship we have with our Rabb and with our family. Our good deeds our bad deeds. Mend any strained relationships that you might have with others. Cleanse your heart of any misgivings towards others. Use this time to prepare for the hereafter and focus on the important things in life. Contemplate on death, the grave, Day of Resurrrection and the hereafter. Allah (‎ﷻ‬) says in the Quran:
“And the worldly life is not but an amusement and diversion; but the home of the hereafter is best for those who fear Allah, so will you not reason?”
{Surah 6 Verse 32}

✳️ Have complete Tawakkal on Allah (‎ﷻ‬). This has come to you because it was meant for you and it is only going to be beneficial for you if not here then in the hereafter.

May Allah (‎ﷻ‬) make it easy for all of us and grant us sabr to deal with all kinds of hardships and trials.
أمين يا رب العلمين

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